Ways To Make Your Parent Understand You Better

Picture this scenario……
Tim has always seen his parents as his worst enemies and on several occasions in the past he had even left home to hang out in the homes of his many friends.
Up until this moment Tim is nowhere near his home and his parents have been worried dead thinking about him always-this has really troubled his mother that she has developed ulcer.

Now, think about it again. Aren’t we all like Tim? Don’t we feel like throwing our parents over the window into the garden, or even over the roof at time because of what we considered to be their hardstand on issues involving us most of the time?

Is there no solution to this matter at all? Must we continue to live like this with our parents forever?

There are solutions for sure…

As a matter of fact, l have about nine of such sure ways by which the matter of understanding could be brought about by the children on one part and parents on another part.

I am confident that if the teenagers could just take the following nine sure steps to make their parents understand them things will definitely work out for good.

1.Talk from your heart and make sure you speak sincerely with them. Don’t hide your feelings at all. It is better to let them know how you truly feel about them. Do this with due respect for their position as parents, and never be rude in anyway no matter the circumstance.

2. Don’t ever stay away from your parents. True, we all feel 'Pissed off by our parents’ attitudes at times. However, this does not call for any ‘run-away’ solution.

3. Don’t see your parents like they are deliberately trying to treat you like the little child you were many years ago even though you are now a’ small adult’- a teenager.

4. Parents are such grown ups that they will not see things your own way easily. So, whatever the problem is, don’t expect them to immediately see thing from your own perspective. It will take some efforts to convince them.

5.You must try, as much as humanly possible, to get hold of your emotions. If not, you may say things you never wanted to say and regret it later.

6.Stick to the issue being discussed and never deviate. The natural tendency is for you to be tempted to say:” After all, everybody else does it!” But pity! You aren’t everybody. You are their child for whom they have a responsibility.

7.When your parents say ‘no’ it does not mean they do not understand you. They may just speak like that in order to forestall possible crises…. Or even disaster. Please, reason with them, or gently and genuinely ask them why they are refusing your request.

8.Accusing your parents of insensitivity when in conflict is a wrong way to go about the matter .Do not attempt to accuse them in order to make them feel guilty and make you have your way.

9.Make friend with people of your parents’ age.Why? Well, through such friendship you will learn their wisdom and this will surely grant you the needed understanding to open up necessary conversation with your own parents without feeling any inhibitions whatsoever.

There you are…… nine main ingredients… well laid out!

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Confusion, no ambiguities. Clear cut! Make use of each of them as at when needed and see how it woks like magic.

Cheers to a happy relationship as a happy family!

Happy parenting.

Kazeem