Parenting a Rebellious Teenager

Do you have a teenage child who is brilliant, creative and perhaps ‘friendly’ outside the home, but turns out to be somehow hostile and defiant at home.

Has your child ever ran away for hours or even days in protest against your decision about what he is trying to do or is already doing?

Relax as you are not alone, so many other parents are experiencing the same the from their teenage children these days.

The following are the steps you should take when your teenage child is becoming rebellious:

1. Try to find out what is bugging him, but count yourself lucky if he tells you.

2. Start to give him some space and latitude and recognize the fact that he is a

young man who possesses raging hormones.

3. Offer him new, more flexible rules .Don't allow for any question from him, neither

should you explain. Just give them to him.

4. Give him chances to make his own mistakes, which are also opportunities to earn

trust. Never expect him to be perfect, he is still a teenager, after all.

5. Treat him as if he has just packed into your house; negotiate with him and set new

boundaries.

6. Don’t be tempted to hold any family counseling section where you would unwittingly

be forcing him into talking about his feelings in front of his sisters and his mom, l’m

sure he will hate that. The possible result would be that he will lie and say whatever

everyone wants to hear.

7. Recognize that he is a grown up and he needs some serious adult responsibilities, and

some trust too.

8. If you are going to pick your kid up at the park, you must agree on a meeting place

somewhere nearby because teenagers do not always like being picked up in front of

their friends.

9. Learn how to communicate with him. He will respond best when approached indirectly

and talk about things which will not make him feel that he is that exposing himself

emotionally thereby subjecting his feelings to a risk.

10. Don’t ever bring in counselors as it will worsen the relationship between you and

your kid instead of improving it.. The child may see it as an admission that you

can not cope on their own. The likely consequence of this is probably going to be a

loss of respect from your child.

Rebellion is a thing everyone of us have tried (in our past years )at one time or the other.Therefore, it will be advised that you should try all of or any of the above solutions and see which one would work.

The main point,however, is to see your teenage child as a human being;who is still young but who is trying to grown up faster than his age.For this reason, he cannot be perfect and should never be expected to be so.

Kazeem

Be Your Child's Friend

You have to begin to learn to be the best friend your child could ever have if you want to be the best parent you have been aiming to be since your decision to start to procreate.

It's just a pity that some parents have not learn to see things from this perspective.But this is the exact way to view the relationship between you and your child or children from now on if you want to be successful as a parent.

Our parents' time were different from ours,and everybody must recognise this fact of life for us to make a headway in the everyday stress of parenting the young ones around us.

Now the question you may want to ask is...

Why must l be my child's friend being the parent?

The simple answer to that will be listed below for your understanding:

# It will stop your child from depending on his friend's advice especially
where the friend's advice is not the same as yours,

# The child we learn to be self-confident and be able to question adults
who may guide him aright,

# You will have the opportunity to question your child easily about their
reason for taking some actions that are somehow injurious to them from
your on understanding of the possible result and guide them appropriately,

# Your child will always feel free to let you know whatever may be worrying
him before it turns harmful and beyond control,

# It provides avenue for you to monitor the friends your child is moving with
and possible opportunity for you to get to know them and their background,

Finally....

Being your child's best friend makes for a very happy home environment and less
worry for both of you at your work place and his own school.

The reason for this...

Well...

People usually find it somehow very hard to do the things that will hurt the friends.

How about this for developing a friendly attitude towards your child and
be your child's friend?

Kayode.

Parenting Is A Serious Business

Do you look forward to the day you too will become a parent like the people around you?

Are you very eager to have your own children all around you and having a happy
family life to the envy of your neighbours?

Then you have come to the right place...

This site is simply created to lead you to the very heart of parenting;
the main secrets to successful parenting with a man who has being
advising others for some years now as a teacher of more than two
decades, a family man of well over two decades in marriage
and a father of two teenagers who has worked all his life with teenagers
and children as a teacher and now a Vice Principal of a senior secondary
school in Lagos,Nigeria.

I can assure you that you are going to be in for a swell time with KAZEEM.

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See you again as we begin the very journey to the....
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