How to successfully engage your teenager to get him/her to
talk to you and ,in addition feel free to see you as a confidant.
Most teenagers are secretive in their doings. They could be so
for some reasons better known to them.
But as a parent you must ensure that you break that silence
the moment it becomes so unbearable to you.
It really should be so because you and you teenage child need
to always maintain some form of communication before things
go wrong with him/her to the extent of contemplating suicide
if he/she is not find things around him/her comfortable any
more.
You can successfully engage your teenage to get him/her to
talk to you by first creating the necessary atmosphere which
is free of stress and tension.
The creation of such environment will make the child lower his/
her guard and see you as a friend with whom he/she could
discuss whatsoever may be agitating his/her mind and even
possibly get a solution to his problems in confidence.
Eat together in an eatery away from the common sight of the
home environment which may remind him of the 'slave-master'
relationship with which he/she has come to associate the
house with since he /she was a toddler.
The two of you could playfully engage in a sporting activity
which he/she is interested in. Remember, the atmosphere must
be cordial in all respect for you to get the good result you
desire from the exercise which is to get your teenager to talk
to you.
Avoid a third party whenever you choose to engage your
teenager in any talk .This is because the involvement of the
third party would make him/her feel 'caged’, which will make
you lose the opportunity to get to talk to him/her again.
Allow for free flow of thought anytime he/she decides to talk
to you. For once choose not to hear his/her manner of
speaking and all other gesticulations that come with.
Don't caution!
Remember this is meant to be a free- time when everybody
is free to say things as he/she feels.
Happy Parenting.
Kazeem.
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