This is a new year and everyone, especially the teenagers,
would be looking up their parents to do things for them.
As a parent of a teenager, you should now by know that
parenting teenagers would not come easy to you, but as a
human being, you should just strive to the best of your ability.
Now that we are in a new year you should endeavour to do
some things for your teenage child that would make him/her
very happy.
These are some of things that you as a parenting could do to
your teenager this new year:
* Without waiting to be asked, send a new year present to
your teenager. This could be anything worth its salt, not just
the type of thing the teenager would not appreciate.
* Talk to him about what you feel life. Let him understand
that the way he thinks about life may not necessarily be the
real way life truly is.
* Play games with your teenager and in the process engage
him in some discussion about things that are peculiar to
people of his age.
* Be more attentive to what your teenager is doing, saying or
engaging in.
* Carefully study what your teenager does with his free time.
* Be concerned about the type of friends your teenager is going
out with in order to be able to render suitable advice where
necessary.
If you can just do these few things for your teenager this new
year, there is no doubt that your relationship with your
teenager would improve tremendously. And you would be the
better for it as a concerned parent.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
How To Make Maximum Impact As A Busy Dad
Are you a busy dad?
Is your life anything like this:
Commuting to or from work, business travel,scheduled and
unscheduled meetings and attending to files even as you close
the door behind you in your master bedroom?
Most busy dads hardly have time for their children,they work
so hard that they tend to end up unwittingly denying their children
a valuable time which should have been positively used together as
a family.
Well, you don't need to worry for too long because here you will be
learning how to make maximum impact as a busy dad in the life of
your children.
It is possible to raise the kids you want in the time you have.You
needn't feel anyway guilty with yourself.
Simply follow these steps and see how much impact you would be
making in the life of your kids as a very busy dad:
* Be involved in your kids' schooling - Try attend
the child's"Back-to-School Night" and other activities once in a
while,or even every time since such things don't happen every day.
* Give your child a few minutes to play together,no matter how short,
everyday before leaving home for work.Your kid will definitely
appreciate the few minutes.
* Build relationships with your child's teachers.Teacher appreciate it
and communicate more with parents they have met physically.The
consequence is that your child won't get away with anything because
he will surely be reported.
* Plan a trip with your child.There are always some work-free days that
would involve both you and your child.So, while not plan a short trip
together?You will be glad you did as your child will forever thank you
for it.
* Develop the habit of listening to your child anytime he talks to you.
I don't mean that you should just pretend that you are paying attention
while you are not.Deliberately pay serious attention and let your child
be convince that you are.
These are just a few of the things you can do to make maximum impact
as a busy dad in the life of your children.You need to be fully engaged
in the development of your children regardless of how busy you think
you are.
Take action right now and see how your parenting life will improve for
the better.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem
Is your life anything like this:
Commuting to or from work, business travel,scheduled and
unscheduled meetings and attending to files even as you close
the door behind you in your master bedroom?
Most busy dads hardly have time for their children,they work
so hard that they tend to end up unwittingly denying their children
a valuable time which should have been positively used together as
a family.
Well, you don't need to worry for too long because here you will be
learning how to make maximum impact as a busy dad in the life of
your children.
It is possible to raise the kids you want in the time you have.You
needn't feel anyway guilty with yourself.
Simply follow these steps and see how much impact you would be
making in the life of your kids as a very busy dad:
* Be involved in your kids' schooling - Try attend
the child's"Back-to-School Night" and other activities once in a
while,or even every time since such things don't happen every day.
* Give your child a few minutes to play together,no matter how short,
everyday before leaving home for work.Your kid will definitely
appreciate the few minutes.
* Build relationships with your child's teachers.Teacher appreciate it
and communicate more with parents they have met physically.The
consequence is that your child won't get away with anything because
he will surely be reported.
* Plan a trip with your child.There are always some work-free days that
would involve both you and your child.So, while not plan a short trip
together?You will be glad you did as your child will forever thank you
for it.
* Develop the habit of listening to your child anytime he talks to you.
I don't mean that you should just pretend that you are paying attention
while you are not.Deliberately pay serious attention and let your child
be convince that you are.
These are just a few of the things you can do to make maximum impact
as a busy dad in the life of your children.You need to be fully engaged
in the development of your children regardless of how busy you think
you are.
Take action right now and see how your parenting life will improve for
the better.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem
Monday, February 2, 2009
Why You Should Avoid Getting Involved In Your Children’s Minor Squabbles
Your young children are as human just as you are.
Yes, they are born of the same mother...
Yes, they are from the same womb...
Yes, they stay under the same roof...
Perhaps they even share clothes sometimes.
But they are still different individuals who should be
accorded the honour of being able to live their lives
their different ways.
Sibling rivalry is good.
Sibling rivalry,provided it is monitored by the parents,
is the best way to make your children develop fast.The
fact is that whoever of your children that is doing fine will
be seen by the other or others as someone to emulate;
challenged positively and perhaps beat him in his own
game.
It happened to me before.
My immediate elder brother is a very brilliant guy
who shows off among his mates to my envy.I always
see him as a person who should be given a run for his
money.
Therefore, in order to turn the table against him and
make him be the one to envy me,l became more serious
with my area of endowment,drama.
I joined some amateur drama groups and got trained
properly to become a fine actor and writer.
Since he was only good at reading,he became envious
of my ability to write very interesting drama piece
which he was always begging me to give him to read.
My answer was always that he should be patient as l
did not like sharing a work in progress with people
who are not real writers like myself.I'd add that only
writers like me could detect what was wrong with the
story l was writing and perhaps give the right advice.
Our parents did not dabble into our rivalry;the just
kept on watching us.And for this we all grew in our
separate pace;at our different time and in our separate
areas of natural endowments.
Today, we are still the best of friends among my siblings
and my children and his own children too never believed
that we were at a time very bitter rivals who were trying
to excel each other in everything we were doing as very
young boys.
As a parent you should let your children grow up on
their own naturally.With time they will outgrow the
sibling rivalry provided you have never dabbled into
the matter and give support to any of the parties involved.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem.
Yes, they are born of the same mother...
Yes, they are from the same womb...
Yes, they stay under the same roof...
Perhaps they even share clothes sometimes.
But they are still different individuals who should be
accorded the honour of being able to live their lives
their different ways.
Sibling rivalry is good.
Sibling rivalry,provided it is monitored by the parents,
is the best way to make your children develop fast.The
fact is that whoever of your children that is doing fine will
be seen by the other or others as someone to emulate;
challenged positively and perhaps beat him in his own
game.
It happened to me before.
My immediate elder brother is a very brilliant guy
who shows off among his mates to my envy.I always
see him as a person who should be given a run for his
money.
Therefore, in order to turn the table against him and
make him be the one to envy me,l became more serious
with my area of endowment,drama.
I joined some amateur drama groups and got trained
properly to become a fine actor and writer.
Since he was only good at reading,he became envious
of my ability to write very interesting drama piece
which he was always begging me to give him to read.
My answer was always that he should be patient as l
did not like sharing a work in progress with people
who are not real writers like myself.I'd add that only
writers like me could detect what was wrong with the
story l was writing and perhaps give the right advice.
Our parents did not dabble into our rivalry;the just
kept on watching us.And for this we all grew in our
separate pace;at our different time and in our separate
areas of natural endowments.
Today, we are still the best of friends among my siblings
and my children and his own children too never believed
that we were at a time very bitter rivals who were trying
to excel each other in everything we were doing as very
young boys.
As a parent you should let your children grow up on
their own naturally.With time they will outgrow the
sibling rivalry provided you have never dabbled into
the matter and give support to any of the parties involved.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem.
Every Child Is Perfect
Every child is born perfect,but we all contribute in one way
or the other to whatever they end up becoming in life.
You should look around you and check out that little baby
you are going to see the innocent look on his innocent face.
What does this tell you?
To me, that signal the fact that the baby has come with a
lot of promises which, if properly guided by the people
around him he may bring his dream to life.
But the little baby of yesterday has learned to do evils
just like those he sees around him on daily bases.
He continuously interpret es the actions and words of the
parents(whether positive or negative) to be the best
there is.
Whenever his parents preach a thing and do another
thing, he feels they are not so honest after all. Therefore,
there is no moral justice for him to begin to say the truth
and have his dealings based on honesty since that will be
going contrary to what he sees his parents doing.
Finally, it is advisable that parents,relations and neighbours
should contribute positively to the growth and development
of the perfect baby around them.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem.
or the other to whatever they end up becoming in life.
You should look around you and check out that little baby
you are going to see the innocent look on his innocent face.
What does this tell you?
To me, that signal the fact that the baby has come with a
lot of promises which, if properly guided by the people
around him he may bring his dream to life.
But the little baby of yesterday has learned to do evils
just like those he sees around him on daily bases.
He continuously interpret es the actions and words of the
parents(whether positive or negative) to be the best
there is.
Whenever his parents preach a thing and do another
thing, he feels they are not so honest after all. Therefore,
there is no moral justice for him to begin to say the truth
and have his dealings based on honesty since that will be
going contrary to what he sees his parents doing.
Finally, it is advisable that parents,relations and neighbours
should contribute positively to the growth and development
of the perfect baby around them.
Happy Parenting...
Kazeem.
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